Most of the love stories begin with friendship. Even though we find friends who stay the same for many years, very often we can hear a couple say, “We were friends at the beginning”. There is no much difference between love and friendship and that is the reason most of the friends fall in love with each other after a while. Even though we say opposite sex doesn’t count, it really affects in a friendship at the end of the day.
What does a friendship mean? Different people will define it in a lot of different ways, but, think for a while, what do we expect from a friend? To be there all the time, to do crazy stuff together, to try out different things together, be happy for each other’s decisions and many more. All these things are so close to your heart and that is why we start thinking that the friend is “my person”. I am not saying that all friendships turn into love, but, I am going to talk about love, which has started from a friendship.
A love story which begins from a friendship is always stronger than any other. A friend really knows you, understands you and care for you. Once you turn to be lovers, he/she cares, loves and understands you more than earlier and it keeps on growing. This lacks in a couple who fell in love at the first sight or between couples who has married from a proposal. In their relationship they need time to get to know each other too. Sometimes this may take the couple to a good state of a relationship, but, unfortunately even to a worst breakup of their life. But, in a friendship based love you always know where you will head; I mean you know you will always keep one step forward.
The feeling of not being strangers really helps you to build up your relationship. There are no times which you shy away or hesitate to tell out how you feel and above all your partner will understand how you feel before you utter even a word. Your partner understands you well, as when you were friends, he/she has understood all your feelings, thoughts, desires and even dreams. Therefore, he/she holds your hand, knowing that he/she will have to walk with you together, whether it is an easy or a difficult path.
Most of the time we see couples quarrel, argue or fight in the first few months of their relationship. This is because this is the time where their real selves come out and where they have to adjust with each other’s different personality. Maybe the partner will feel that he/she is a totally different person. But in a relationship built on a friendship, it happens very rarely. Your lover knows who you are, as he/she, as a friend knew about you, even the things you do not know about yourself. Therefore, even if you get drunk, laugh out loud in the middle of a road or climb on a wall he/she will never be surprised or feel that he/she never knew you.
If you date your friend, you get the lucky chance of getting all the gifts you always wanted your lover to give you. So you can have that sweet feeling inside you, guessing which one of your desired gifts you will get on your birthday or anniversary. And once again, you being a lover have the chance to surprise your partner with the best gift, as you knew what he/she expected when she dated another person earlier.
It’s the understanding you had when you were friends, takes you on a long way, when you become lovers. Lovers never can turn into friends. But, friends turned into lovers are the best and the strongest in the world! They end up in making history!